Before washing your hair massage your scalp and brush your hair. After the hair is thoroughly wet (lukewarm water) squirt a dot of shampoo about the size of a quarter into the hand. Rub the hands together and start washing first underneath the hair at the nape of the neck, then behind the ears and finally at the back of the head. 

Do a short rinse, then squirt another quarter size blob of shampoo into the hands. After rubbing them together wash the rest of the scalp starting on top of the ears, back of the head and then the crown. Do another short rinse, then the blob thing and starting at the back of the head wash the length. Since the shampoo has been "rinsed" through the length you don't have to do the length in two sections. Then rinse it thoroughly using lukewarm water.

Apply conditioner, again in stages starting from the ends up but concentrating on the ends. Bottom half of the length, top half of the length, back of head and the crown. Then lightly coil the hair and spear it into place with a hair stick and wait for about five minutes. Thoroughly rinse with cold water. Press the hair between the palms to get rid of excess water. 

Loosely wrap the hair up in a towel and get dressed. After dressing, let the hair out of the towel (it doesn't drip). About an hour later the hair is dry enough at the roots on the crown of the head so you can start finger picking your hair into some kind of order. Don't brush the hair until later in the day. When you do brush, first apply oil with your hands. Dress the hair the way you want it, style being a personal matter.